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John & Cynthia馃槵

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John, who just recently resumed in a popular bank ' A' in January 2024 is already thinking of switching to another bank as he is not 'feeling it' anymore and it looks like the bank doesn't seem to give the vibe of a lively place.  He has also been seeing the pictures of some of his friends working in 'Bank B' smiling and even taking pictures on Valentine's day. He can't wait to join Bank B soon. In 2023, he worked in 3 different companies. Cynthia is with her 4th partner (Bode) in the last 12 months. It looks like she dates one guy per quarter. 馃槀 About Efe (the first) she said, he doesn’t have a sharp sense of humour, he is too soft and believes there is someone else outside there who possessed all she wanted.❌ Not too long, she met with Nduka at a friend's wedding. As they went on, she said he is too social, she doesn’t like guys that ladies easily flock around. ❌ One day, she saw a 'Hi' on her WhatsApp , she checked the display picture...

I Miss You馃グ?

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  I saw a video on Mr Leke Alder's page very early this morning that brought tears to my eyes for real.馃ゲ In fact, some of the persons who saw the video commented that they felt like shedding tears too.  I remember how I stumbled on one of his write-ups many years ago and immediately went to follow him on Facebook, searched to see his videos on YouTube and tried to be connected to his works as much as possible. You know he recently clocked 60.  During his speech yesterday, he mentioned how that 10 years ago, he was diagnosed with Cancer and he has been on treatment since then.  As he got to the end of the treatment, he was diagnosed with another disease. He mentioned that the last 10 years has been tough for him, his wife and children. As he got to the end of his speech, he requested that his wife should join him on stage for a dance and right there they both broke into tears. _......(I will get back to this in a bit)..........._ When someone says to you 'I miss you'...

The Boy & The Vulture

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You know the picture of 'A BOY FALLEN TO THE GROUND FROM HUNGER WHILE A VULTURE LURKED ON THE GROUND NEARBY?' This picture was taken by Kevin Carter.  Kevin took that picture in 1993 during the Sudan war and the famine that followed. Kevin was an award winning South African Photojournalist. He was awarded the Pulitzer Prize for Feature Photography in 1994 for a picture he took in 1993. He sold this picture to The New York Times which then spread round the world. Hundreds of people contacted the newspaper to ask for the fate of the boy. Kevin died in 1994. He never recovered from that sight as he committed suicide by carbon monoxide poisoning. 'I'm really, really sorry. The pain of life overrides the joy to the point that joy does not exist... depressed... without phone... money for rent...money for child support...money for debts...money!!!.. I am haunted by the vivid memories of killings & corpses & anger & pain.....of starving or wounded children, of trigg...

Why Ghost Me?馃ゲ

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What I am about to share with you is from a deep research and a conclusion drawn from many conversations. To ghost someone means to suddenly withdraw without notice a show of affection and expression of love towards someone. When a guy meets a lady and then they seem to have a good rapport and things are unfolding very fast, there seem to be a divine connection that suggests love and signal a potential life union.  Sometimes there's this rush of emotion of 'You complete me' from one person to the other person or from both sides.馃グ This can carry on for a while until a certain time or phase where one person suddenly becomes unavailable to feed the other person's emotions and yieldings like before.  This unavailable person becomes very cold. The victim can sometimes get very depressed. A person who is been ghosted can find it hard to believe that he/she has been ghosted.  I have seen people breakdown for months as they didn't learn the science of managing being ghoste...

The Weak

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 Warning: There is an instruction at the end of the post that is only for the bold馃挭馃徏 When people know they can manipulate your feelings and will, they most likely will. Unknown to you, they have tried you many times and noticed your weakest link, so they have mastered how to get to you and then leave you in the middle of no where. The guy believes he can lose you anytime he feels like and knows how to get you back through your weakest point.  It could be to speak your love language specially again, trigger a part of you and you innocently draw near again feeling loved and then leaves you in the middle of no where.  Usually, it's that the person comes when he or she wants to feed a part of him/her you are great at feeding, it could be giving attention or gifts and then when you have fed him/her fully, you are left again till next time. You are been seriously manipulated by a task master.  Even dealing with some 'tor-mentors' too. Someone who reduces your achievement...

No Gree For.....

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It's just the 12th night of the year and somebody somewhere is already asking 'I thought and hoped that this year will be better but why are things even more difficult for me?'馃ゲ I read the report of a lady who committed suicide recently.  She left a note saying 'Nothing is working...' Tear dropped from my eye as I read the note she left behind. 馃槬 Life has a way of testing one's conviction and capacity to take in pressure.  In this same year that's just 12 nights old, some people have lost their jobs, folded up businesses and lost grounds.  If you are going through a lot at the moment and you feel as though you will soon break, you will need to learn to hearken to do what I am about to share with you.  1. Build mental toughness Let me explain, the idea of mental toughness is that you become strategically resolute in the pursuit of what you want.  This is what 'No Gree For Anybody' means馃榿 It means you insist with wisdom. It's a decision to get ...

It's Hard

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It's hard. 馃槥 How do you encourage a person who did everything right in 2023 but by December had little to show for his/her efforts that 2024 is a new year and that BIG things can happen?馃槥 I mean, this person read all the books recommended, attended events, networked with the professionals in the same industry, served a mentor wholeheartedly, took a bold step, started a business, sharpened needed skills but still results were not commensurate with efforts.  Times when she asked and didn't receive, she knocked and the doors didn't open, she sought and didn't find anything馃ゲ. I admit it is hard to encourage this person to see that there's reward for effort as the immediate reality contradicts this fact. If you are the one that I just described, I understand how it feels trust me but please keep reading. I have two evergreen wise words of advice.  No 1.  Let me quote a part of the Bible that says that 'As earth remains, seed time and harvest time will never cease...