I Miss You🥰?

 

I saw a video on Mr Leke Alder's page very early this morning that brought tears to my eyes for real.🥲

In fact, some of the persons who saw the video commented that they felt like shedding tears too. 

I remember how I stumbled on one of his write-ups many years ago and immediately went to follow him on Facebook, searched to see his videos on YouTube and tried to be connected to his works as much as possible.

You know he recently clocked 60. 

During his speech yesterday, he mentioned how that 10 years ago, he was diagnosed with Cancer and he has been on treatment since then. 

As he got to the end of the treatment, he was diagnosed with another disease.

He mentioned that the last 10 years has been tough for him, his wife and children.

As he got to the end of his speech, he requested that his wife should join him on stage for a dance and right there they both broke into tears.

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When someone says to you 'I miss you'🥰, what comes to your mind immediately? 

Let me guess...

It means that you mean so much to the person and that your absence was felt which infers that your presence counts and matters.🥰

This is what it should mean, shey?

It could mean something even deeper for two persons who were in love, took a break and after a while decided to reunite. You know that 'For the days I didn't speak with you, it felt like my breathe was seized. Having you back makes me feel alive again'😁🥰 moment.

Well, the bitter truth is that most people say 'I miss you' because of the problem you are solving and they have not found someone to fill that void, the day they find someone that seems to want to fill the void, you will be forgotten.

The next time someone says I miss you, just try ask 'why?' and you will be shocked at how the person will stammer badly or say something totally off-point but please try not to laugh at the person.😂

Imagine a lady at her place of work who wanted to quickly pick a document she left on her table in her office slipped and fell down the stairs and eventually died before getting to the hospital. The HR posted an opening on Indeed and other job platforms two days later. 

The company had to fill the position as soon as possible so that they don't 'lose customers and sales' as well.

Two important lessons you must never forget.

No 1: Choose you first

You need time to sleep, eat, play, grow and pray.

Love yourself enough to treat yourself like a king that you are. If it will stretch you too thin when offered, politely make your case known, decline if possible and refer back to contract if necessary.

Work no doubt but take that leave when you have to.

No 2: (From Sir Leke Alder's story) Understand that everyone on your friends list on Facebook are not your friends and not everyone on your contact will be available to be contacted when you need presence. 

Only few people love you genuinely. Identify them, commit to them, be present for those who love you and you love as well. Keep them very close to you and forebear.

Sò gbò?🦻🏼

Oluwapelumi Awe