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Why Gaslight Me? 2

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  A guy meets a lady, they connect very well. They talk almost 24/7 a day. Nothing about getting into a relationship was mentioned. He assumes they are dating by the many projections from the lady. She also can sense that he likes her and pretends that she is in with him whereas there's the main guy that she is seeing seriously.  He noticed that he can't see her status anymore but doesn't see that as a big deal.  She cooks for him and in return he will regularly get her a bouquet of flowers 馃尯馃拹 from Konga and orders Rose 馃尮 on Jumia. She smells it, 'hmmm, it smells nice,' she said✨馃榿 He has changed her name on his phone to 'Till Infinity'. She sees it and she pretentiously blushes before him.  They both had a video call with Mama in the village. His father is late. Mama prayed for both of them 'I will carry your children', they both said 'Amen'.  This guy is a nice guy but she doesn't like him enough to be her husband but won't tell

Why Gaslight Me? 1

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Now let's talk about 'Gaslighting'. 'Gaslighting' is an ancient way of manipulation. It's to manipulate a person with the intention that the person feels guilty or takes the position that the gaslighter pleases. Simply put, saying what makes a person question his/her person, perception and act. Some bosses are 'Gaslighters'. Some guys are 'gaslighters'. Some ladies are 'gaslighters'. Our world is full of them. Workplace: Your boss can be a gaslighter. She talks down on your effort or your work so that when she adds more to your work you won't push back. Some bosses gaslight their staffers to the point that a staff can doubt his/her ability and all of a sudden think he/she is not good enough anymore. Sometimes you find victims anxious and afraid when they want to go to work and submit a task. In relationship: It's worse here. He says things to make you feel guilty when in actual fact, he is the one to be blamed. When the relationsh