Thoughtfulness As A Skill Today

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Of all the dates you have been on, which one is the most memorable for you? 馃グ

The one with Bode shey? 馃槏

Why do you still think about the day as if it happened yesterday and why your other dates haven't been like 'THAT ONE' with Bode?馃榿

I can tell you that it must have been his acts of thoughtfulness which could have been a gesture, a question that he asked, a gift or something in the moment. 

One of the skills that I have seen not often spoken about but is responsible for why people get preferred over others is the skill of 'thoughtfulness'. 

Thoughtfulness is not a virtue as many have made it seem, it is a skill. 

It is the ability to voluntarily take an extra step to further add colour to a project or make someone feel better on your own knowing that even without the extra contribution the result will still be predictable. 

It is why people will want to have you by their side, run ideas by you and even include you in the execution. 

We as humans love people who are thoughtful, people who stretch the routine bracket and who give us something to look forward to whether it's in a relationship setting or even at the workplace or on a team.

The capacity to 'initiate' is a true weapon you must possess if you will get the best life presents and not settle.

In an interview room, be thoughtful enough to ask sound questions about the company. 

For example: Sir, what is the plan to incorporate Ai in the process of this company and what is the job guarantee for staffers in this department once Ai has been incorporated? 

Or on a date as a guy, you can ask questions even if simple but that show you thought about them well. Contextualize your questions. 

For example, a question like 'what is your favorite color?' can be asked thoughtfully.

'My mom's favourite colour is yellow. My sister's favourite color is also yellow, I am having a feeling that your favourite color is yellow too, tell me if I am wrong?'馃榿

Nothing waters down conversations like when only one person is asking thoughtful questions and the other is basically just answering. 

Thoughtfulness is an attribute we look out for subconsciously when choosing people whether for a job and even someone we want to spend life with. 

It's what makes a person unforgettable no matter how short the time we spend with them. 

People can pretend they don't care but NO ONE easily forgets a true thoughtful act. 

So, ask questions, listen intentionally, show support unprovoked, know when to be still or chill, get a gift, call first, spring a surprise, show that you care, be willing to help, cover people's flaws, be kind, think deep, share your thoughts wisely laced with tact. 

Being thoughtful = Being unforgettable

You want to beat Ai, be thoughful!

Oluwapelumi Awe

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