'I was stupid....😌'

 

'I was stupid, I shouldn't have said or done that, I am sorry.'😞

Those were the words of a guy to a man whose wife he had insulted in a movie I watched (#Guess the movie title 😁).

Let me give you a background story...😁

This guy needed answers to the mysterious sickness of his father. His mother had told him that he visited a family hours before the illness started. 

This guy decided to visit the family. On getting to the family's house, he knocked on the door and was received by Mrs B into the house. 

On meeting Mr B, he initiated the conversation rudely. He even disrespected Mrs B. 

Mr B requested that he should apologize to his wife or leave. He chose to leave and the door shut behind him. 

This guy got into his car, took a deep breathe and spent sometime thinking about what he could have done better. 

He got down from his car, walked to the door and knocked. 

When the door was opened this time, he made the statement 'I WAS STUPID, I SHOULD NOT HAVE SAID OR DONE THAT, I AM SORRY'.

He was allowed in and his questions answered. 

Two powerful points here..

1. I fear people who say they can't ever apologize for reacting or saying what's not the best, right or fair. You don't become weaker by saying I am sorry especially when you say it to someone who is wise and kind. 

It's okay to swallow the words you said and say 'I am sorry, I should have done better...'

I know some people can take advantage of that, it's a testament that these guys have a very poor self esteem. They feed their esteem with pleas and 'I am sorry'. 

You must educate yourself to stick to what is humane and kind. 

2. Be willing to accept apology. When you have been hurt several times, it's easy to put up a wall that anyone who wants to get close to you must climb. You will employ more immigration protocols at the border of your heart to screen whoever is making attempts to get close whether as a friend or life companion. 

Whilst this looks like what should be, when a person who offended you or should have done better has shown true and genuine repentance or acknowledged his/her wrongs and can be seen in act and kind, it's a good or humane thing to forgive and grant access. 

People can only stretch so far until they get to a point where they conclude that they have done their best. 

Sometimes, you should learn to distinguish between God's voice and the voice of your Ego or past/pain.

Sò gbò? 🦻🏼

I want you to win 😊

Oluwapelumi Awe