What will be missed about me?

When life happens, when I lose contact with someone, when I am absent temporarily, when I get transferred or mutually part ways with someone, what will be missed about me? 

This is truly a thought-provoking question, shey?🤔

If sincerely you can't answer this within 5 mins, stay with me, because you see my dear, you are not alone as there are about 1 billion people in the world who can't supply answer to this too within 5mins.

To answer this question, you will need to know what you bring to the table EVERYTIME. 

The starting point in this case is to know what is unique about you.

How authentic and genuine are you when you meet people or join a team? 

Personally, I have taken time to study myself well enough so that I am sure what I bring to every team and everyone I meet.

I don't like saying that I am the best when describing my person.

To say I am the best is to prompt the mind to draw comparison but I prefer to say that I am very authentic, loyal, creative, caring, truly concerned, real and present.

This understanding makes me feel truly useful, bold, perfectly irreplaceable and invaluable in any partnership, collaboration and relationship I am in. 

For you, it could be that you are very caring, you listen a lot, you share opportunities quickly, you are cheerful, you are quick to support, you never backstab, you are loving, peaceful, you are a defense, shoulder to cry on, supporting, quick to assist, present, available..

These are not skills necessarily because skills can be learnt but these are attributes that make you truly remembered. 

They are the extras that make ordinary acts look extraordinary.

When someone says 'I DON'T MISS PEOPLE AND I DON'T CARE IF THEY DON'T, it's either the fellow has low self esteem, the person is grossly ignorant of how things work in the world of men or the person is saying this to protect his/her heart given an experience as a defense mechanism.

When you know what you bring to the table, you can't feel useless or be made to feel useless, you will beg less for acceptance and only offer what you have to those who truly deserve to experience your genius.

If your plumber dies, you can replace him the next time you need your pipe fixed, but when a plumber who sends you happy new month message everytime dies, it will take a while to forget him. 

There's a guy who from 2016 has not failed to send me personalized 'Happy new month ' messages and ask about my wellbeing.

He mentioned my name in an organization as his referee. I was called secretly and asked to speak about him. 

The first thing I said was that for 7 years he has sent me personalized happy new month text and I said that speaks of consistency, care and empathy. I ended by saying that he will make a good customer service candidate.

He called me later to say thank you and how he was told of my comment about him.

Never go to a table with nothing to offer or with only skill or beauty. 

It's easy to know why a coach keeps playing a footballer who is not in his best form but comes to training before everyone, leaves last and seeks to help everytime.

People can pretend they don't know what you are bringing to the table but trust me, for some, it will take them meeting someone else to know what they always enjoyed but didn't appreciate, for others, they know but don't want to tell you so that you don't feel 'important' (which In a way only shows that they have low-self esteem). 

Again, I ask you, what will be missed about you when you are gone?

I want you to win, shebi you know?😊

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